Besides pulling a gun on your date, the worst thing you can do is overthink and contrive a "date persona".I THINK THAT THEY HAVE THE REASON WHEN THEY TALK ABOUT SOMEONE IS LOOKING FOR A COUPLE IS IMPORTANT TO DON'T LOSE PERSONAL HOBBIES AND SPEND ALL THE TIME IN THE OTHER PERSON.
Here, the advice IS coming from actual experts and in this case, six bona fide therapists! Ditch the long laundry list written by everyone else, but you! When getting to know someone in a new relationship, they want to know who you are today not how you were in a past relationship or lifetime.
DO talk about yourself as who you are today in the present and the values and goals you have for yourself in the future. DON'T monopolize the conversation or make yourself the highlight real, no one healthy or worthwhile being in a relationship with is interested in getting into a coupleship with a narcissist.
” Says Barbara “I don’t want to make any of you feel bad or anything, but wait until you hear about my Harry, twice a week he pays someone $200 an hour just so he can lie on their couch and talk to them, and who do you think he speaks about at those prices? Five minutes later, half the squad pulls up, the Chief of Police walks over to the woman’s window. Yes, he would need hearing aids and they ranged in price from $10.00 to $2,000, was what he was told. The nurse placed the hearing aids into his ears and hung a wire around his neck. ” “Oh my gosh” gushed Greta, “I’m so glad you called, I knew I said yes to somebody but I just couldn’t recall who it was!
Asks Barbara with a big excited double chin smile, “I’ll tell you who he speaks about! ” “Sugar why don’t you sit down by the table and we’ll start supper.” Said Dorothy to her Husband of 50 years. He is just the cutest, he says to me in the cutest voice “Hi Grandma! ” At the urging of Harry’s wife and doctor, 50 year old Harry finally made it to the gym.
I think that the most important thing in a dating is to be who we really are, if we want find a person to share our life, this person has to be nice to our and we have to be nice to it, but being completely ourselves, i think that de honesty and transparency is really important, because you don't have to be change your personality or your ideals to please a person, you have to find the correctly person.