Things were done and said on both sides that make form of reconciliation, even as friends absolutely impossible.‘No Contact’, or ‘NC’ in ‘BPD-speak’ is the only way to be.*(I am not a psychologist, I have experience with this situation and I am sharing from that and my own research.
Any boundaries you have set up are merely challenges to a narcissist. He will take it as a personal victory when he ends up “changing your mind” in just a few days. He will bug and cajole you until you set up a date.
Anytime you say no, they will find a way to change your mind, and do it in such a way you think it was actually your idea.
Unfortunately, if you’re caught up in the romance you may miss the manipulation that comes along with it. Ask anyone who has ever been with a narcissist, they will tell you all the red flags were there.
They will also tell you that they could see these red flags, but they dismissed them or rationalized the narcissist’s bad or questionable behavior away. Narcissists have to move quickly in a relationship, plowing over your natural resistance with over the top romance.
They will complement you excessively, take you on wonderful dates, and buy you lots of gifts.