We will probably be out at the mall, because that’s what dads do with their sons, and I’ll catch the look. Doesn’t matter where it is, there will come a time when I will see it. You should give them the full attention they deserve simply because they are a fellow human being.
It is your responsibility to look at her like a human being regardless of what she is wearing. You are not a helpless victim when it comes to your eyes. The moment you objectify another human – woman or man, you give up your humanity. Don’t look to see something that tickles your senses, but see a human being.
A lot of people will try and tell you that a woman should watch how she dresses so she doesn’t tempt you to look at her wrongly. It is a woman’s responsibility to dress herself in the morning. The moment you play the victim you fall into the lie that you are simply embodied reaction to external stimuli unable to determine right from wrong, human from flesh. If you truly love a person, do not reduce them to an object. Without fear of being judged, or shamed, or condemned, or objectified, or being treated as other.
But we have to talk about it because how you look at a woman matters. Discipline yourself to see her, not her clothes or her body. Humans objectify the things they love in effort to control them.
” Here, I spared you the trouble of Googling it: The 14 Best Places to Meet Eligible Men Without giving anything away, Loriann, here are the actual places that have been recommended by a site called All Womens Talk: the bar, the market, online, church, the water cooler, newspapers, college, friends, the gym, restaurants, work, vacation, parks, airplanes. Apparently, it means standing around a lot, hoping that a cute, age appropriate, interested single guy happens upon you at the bar, the market, college, the gym, restaurants, parks, and airplanes.