: Understanding Mothers and Daughters in Conversation.
The mother, also in friend mode, will respond by sympathizing with her daughter.
But soon the mother switches into mom mode, peppering her daughter with questions like, "Are you getting enough sleep?
She leaned over the bed to greet her mother, and the first words out of her mother's mouth: "When was the last time you did your roots?
" Tannen says that ordinarily this woman would have been annoyed at her mother's fixation on her appearance.
Each of these, of course, is related to physical appearance — which reflects the problems women face in society at large.